Unit 3: Get Clear on Consent.
IN THIS LESSON
Asking for consent (and listening to their response) is easy.
It's important that you are aware of your own boundaries and you feel ready to communicate them with another person. And, it’s just as important that you know when you want to engage in a behavior with someone else and you ask them for consent before engaging in that behavior.
Watch the 1-minute video below, from Teach Consent, and make a list of all the ways the two people ask for consent. Your grown-up should make one list and you should make another. There's at least 3 asks for consent in the video below. Extra credit if you can find more.
Okay, now compare your lists.
How many was did these two folks ask for consent between each other?
What other ways did these two teens communicate consent in addition to saying "yes" or "no?"
What happens when someone asks for consent and the answer is “No.” How does the young person respond?
Ready to level up? Teens who are advanced know that consent isn't really just a yes or no question, it's an entire conversation in which you’re always checking in, reading body language, and responding and reacting in ways that show you see, hear and respect another person’s responses. It constant, which means you and another person are frequently giving each other consent, or not.
Want to double check yourself? Click the plus sign below to see all the ways these two young people asked for consent:
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A text saying, “Do you want to come over?” and an affirmative reply saying, “Sure.”
One person saying, “Do you want to shoot some hoops?” And the other person saying, “No, not really.”
One person saying, “Do you want to play?” and the other person saying, “Yeah.”
One person saying, “Do you want to go see a movie?” And the other person saying, “Nah.”
One person saying, “Do you wanna kiss?” and the other person saying, “Yeah!” with a smile.